Feeling like there’s something that’s just not quite there yet in how you’re going about this whole asian online dating thing? Don’t feel bad, chances are you’re one of the many people who’re still pretty new to this gig. Heck, asian internet dating has only been around for about eight years, so obviously no one out there can claim to have all the answers. But hey, seeing that we've been perfecting the art of matching asian girls up online all eight of those years, we’d like to share a little of what we’ve learned about how to make the best of your asian online experience. Who knows, one of these pointers might be just what you’ve been missing in perfecting your own asian online dating adventures. Therefore, without further ramblings, here are the: TOP 10 TIPS FOR SUCCESSFUL ASIAN ONLINE DATING SAY CHEESE! Look your best and submit a great photo of yourself for your profile photo. A good picture really is worth a thousand words, and research shows that you are nearly 10 times more likely to be noticed by an asian girl if you post a photo to your profile. And, the same stats hold true when you contact an asian girl you’ve noticed on the site. If you don’t have a photo, don’t be surprised if the responses aren’t too quick in coming back. Now, don’t get mad a start making accusations about all the shallow people out there. While it may be true that some people place too much emphasis on physical appearances, the bottom line is it does make a difference when two people are meeting and making initial evaluations of their interest in each other. And, it’s also a trust thing. It is always going to be much easier to interact with a face than with a blank box. FRESH IS GOOD Change your profile picture and greeting occasionally, add photos to your photo album, and login regularly—this will not only get you noticed, but it will help others get a more varied and up-to-date idea of what constitutes the real you. When something interesting happens in your life, tell us about it in your profile greeting. This is a great way to let your asian online friends in on what it might be like to actually spend time with you. That’s the main goal of asian online dating isn’t it, to find asian girls you’d finally like to meet and spend time with face-to-face? Anyways, it’s always more fun to hear about a crazy experience you’ve just had than to read the same old descriptions of you and your cat that have been on your profile for months now. As for photo albums, this is the icing on the cake. Not only do these photos round out and confirm the physical picture your friends are forming of you, but they also go a long way in helping others really see what makes you “you.” The head and shoulders shot of you in your profile photo is nice and all, but when they see you hanging 10, running with your Chihuahua, or shoving a big fat piece of cheesecake in your mouth … now they’re getting to know you. I HAVE CONFIDENCE IN ME Have fun describing yourself without making excuses about why you're on the asian site or who convinced you to finally go online. Tell us what makes you unique. Believe it or not, being an online dater no longer places you on the fringes of society or even in the minority. Asian Online dating has grown up and moved into the mainstream, and so you can now happily assume that the face-saving qualifiers of past times online are now obsolete. And, more importantly, just realize that they don’t help your cause when meeting others online. One more thing … try to be original. Yes, I’m sure you really do like the outdoors and want to meet someone who looks good in a tux and in jeans, but so does everyone else! Tell us some things about yourself that wouldn’t necessarily come out in an elevator conversation with your tax accountant. For example, what are you passionate about? What would you do if no longer had to work for a living? What’s your favorite flavor of gelato? Do you secretly wish everyday was sampling day at the grocery store? … now it’ getting interesting! HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY Don't be fooled thinking telling fibs will impress that special someone enough to get relationship started... it will turn them off! Be your best self. When you really stop and think about it, what do you think your new asian friend’s reaction is going to be if when you meet for the first time it’s obvious you’re not the person they thought they were going to be meeting? “Oh .. hi. I see that you’ve been dishonest with me from the get-go here, but hey, I’m still thinking we’ve got a great shot at having an open, trusting relationship for the long-term” Obviously not. They’re going to be hurt, and disappointed. And, your asian relationship is unlikely to get past the wave goodbye as your asian girl gets back in their car to go home. IT'S NICE TO BE NICE Okay, so you get a little grouchy once in a while—don’t we all? However, asian people like nice people. Please be considerate and polite … it will make this whole online thing so much more enjoyable for all of us! There’s an interesting social phenomenon researchers have discovered in online interactions. They’ve found people often change their standards of politeness and diplomacy when a conversation is happening online, versus face-to-face. Don’t believe it? You might be surprised if you were to go back and look at some of the things you’ve said. Look at some messages you’ve sent, and then consider saying the exact same words in a face-to-face or a telephone conversation. Sound a little rough? Don’t feel too bad, it happens to the best of us, just try to keep this in mind the next time you’re typing out an email or instant message to an asian girl. One more thing—please don’t ignore asian people. A quick “thanks, but no thanks” note is so much better than no reply at all. In fact, next time you’re replying to a message on the site, check out the new “Thanks but No Thanks” template. It’s a quick way to nicely let someone know you’re not interested in corresponding. YOU CAN PICK YOUR FRIENDS … Invite your friends along! Create Activity Groups, go on group dates, try Express Dating, enjoy travel events, and just enjoy the net together. After all, instant messaging alone isn’t enough to build solid relationships. Group dating and group events simply make a lot of sense for online dating. Not only does it make those first dates less stressful, it often makes them more fun, and it definitely makes first meetings a much safer proposition. Have you ever tried Activity Groups? They’re a great way to meet people with common interests in a safe, fun group setting. You can join a group that’s already been created, or you can create your own and invite all your friends to join … and their friends … and their friends … you get the point. BREAK OUTA THAT SHELL Don’t be afraid to make the first contact. Asian Online dating makes it easy for all you shy ones out there to break the ice, because you get to do all the initial getting to know each other from the comfort and safety of your own computer. To start, just send a Flirt or a quick email message to the asian girl saying Hi—and do it often! You might be surprised how many of our great members suffer from lack of attention from their online peers. Not only might you find someone with whom you’re very interested in maintaining contact, but you’ll probably be making someone’s day. EXPAND YOUR HORIZONS If your first internet efforts haven’t turned up “the perfect one,” don’t despair. Hundreds of asian girls sign up every day on the site, so just come back to see Who’s New. You may also want to consider expanding your searches—don’t be too intent on sticking to your itemized checklist for eternal mates. You might also want to try some different searches from time to time. Because there are about a million different things you might find attractive in another asian girl, it’s nice to mix up the criteria you’re searching on once in a while. For example, you can search by their Occupation, any Keyword or combination of keywords you can think of, and many others. UH OH … THIS MIGHT ACTUALLY BE FUN! Don’t be afraid to have some fun along your path to relationship happiness! Enjoy getting to know asian girls and understand that many happy relationships and even marriages start with a good ol’ friendship. And, don’t rush it! You’ve heard animals can sense fear? Well, we humans can be pretty perceptive as well (except for that one guy who just can’t take a hint). So, don’t think others can’t sense when you’re frustrated, dejected, conceited, holier than thou, fed up, etc. etc. Put a smile on, and enjoy the ride, because even if the first few people you meet isn’t Mrs. Right, it doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun in good conversations with her. You may also need to be a little bit patient as you head off into the brave new world of asian online dating. Not all marriages are “love at first site,” and even if yours is, it may take a lot of looking before you “site” that special someone. And so, once again … enjoy the ride! Be smart, be cautious, and follow our safety guidelines, your instincts, and the spirit in all your dating activity. Done right, online dating is a lot of fun, and it’s a great way to meet some wonderful asian girls … just ask the thousand-plus people we’ve had submit success stories to us in the past few years! So, enjoy it, and follow these ten tips, and hopefully we’ll be getting a success story from you sometime soon.

You know who you are and what you want, tell the asian girls about it! Almost everyone seems to enjoy 'moonlit walks, candlelight dinners, and strolls on the beach'. Be specific about values held and sought, in addition to naming hobbies and interests. If you know your asian girl is a Buddhist, say so. If you are adamant about remaining childless, convey that too. State your willingness to travel to asia. The ladies in Thailand may not respond when she notes you live in Paris, if you fail to mention that geographic location is no barrier. Express an interest in getting to know much more about her. Be sure to ask her questions & inform her you are very glad to answer any questions she has for you.

Asian girls often lead busy lives! She might be out of town, her ISP server down, or her old computer has crashed. Wait awhile, then write back, mention your first email, and include the fact that you are really interested in her. BE POLITE and POSITIVE. GOOD WISHES. A closing statement conveying best wishes whether she chooses to respond to your email or not, speaks volumes about the sender. It may be the one nice thing she has heard all day, and enough to generate a response for you! BE HONEST, BE HONEST, BE HONEST. One aspect which cannot be over-stated!!

Write lots of letters. This increases your chances of finding the right asian girl for you. Writing to 5 or 6 asian girls is fine, but 25 asian ladies will give you much better odds of finding several very good candidates as wife prospects. Make a copy of the letter you send each asian lady. You don't want to repeat yourself unneccessarily as it becomes obvious to your asian penpal that you can't remember what you told her. Start a file folder for each asian girl. Keep her letter to you & a copy of each letter you send her in it. Refer to each letter before you write your next one to her. Say "goodbye" if you decide to discontinue corresponding to an asian women, write and say goodbye. It’s the polite thing to do, whether you tell them the truth or invent something to save their feelings. It might save them many years of wondering what happened to you. Be a thoughtful gentleman. You've found asian girls you want to contact. They were interesting and funny in their ad and had something in common with you. They didn't have two word responses to stock questions and weren't "seeking a beautiful life together, puppies and moonlit beach walks." When you write an e-mail to an asian girl you should let her know why you wrote and tell something about yourself. In the meantime, you can ask some general questions like their jobs and interests. You don’t have to show off your strong points in initial mails. Compliment the asian lady on something you saw in her photo or read in her bio-data. "Your warm smile caught my eye." or "I think your haircut is really cute." Do not write, "You have nice cha cha’s". An asian girl won’t write back. Be a total gentleman and make her feel special, not cheap. Ask her some questions so that she feels you are interested in her. Ask questions like, "Do you have brothers and sisters? Tell me about your family." Don't belittle their asian customs or their asian country. They are a very proud asian people & are fully aware of their countries shortcomings, but don't like foreigners tell them about it. They know they are poor, underpaid, have bad roads and short on hospital care, so don't keep reminding them. It will sound to them that you are actually putting their asian country down. Don’t ask the asian lady to send you photos of herself in a bathing suit or nude. It won’t earn you any points. The Russian ladies might eventually send you a photo in a bathing suit but the asian ladies, almost never. Don’t ask questions like, "Are you a virgin?" or "Do you like sex?". Save that stuff for after you’ve established a strong friendship and BOTH parties are ready for intimate topics. Don’t say, "I love you" in your first couple of letters. Try to win her friendship first. Reply promptly to all of her letters with another photo, if you have one. In future letters, send photos of where you live & of your city. Expect to wait up to 1 week for a reply to your first mail. An asian girl also needs time to compose her letter and obtain an acceptable photo to send back to you. Photographs can be misleading. Most of the asian ladies look better in person. A few look worse. You need to look for inner qualities too! Wait until you have received 3 or 4 photos before you make a quick decision. So don't pre-judge her from her first bad photo to you! If an asian girl writes you back, exchange messages for awhile. No need to rush anything -- flirting is one of the best parts of asian online dating. It's an artful way of using words, and you get a chance to craft your response over time - perfect if you're shy. If after 3 or 4 emails the asian girl still seems interesting its time to take the relationship a step further and you can explore the other party by discussing more topics. These asian girls are very intelligent. Some may have some trouble with English at first, but this is expected because English is not their daily language. It is taught in the schools but they still become confused at times because we pronounce words different than they actually learn them. Don’t forget to send birthday and holiday cards. You’ll really get extra credit for being thoughtful. If you are writing to many asian ladies, you might keep some cards on hand. Don’t forget Valentine’s Day! Send your cards early enough to arrive on time. If you include your phone number they will think you want them to call. Don’t send your phone number unless you’re prepared to accept collect calls. Do include your e-mail address and ask them if they have access to the internet. There are internet cafes in many malls and hotels, in every asian country. Don’t promise to visit her unless you really will. Don’t drag all of your skeletons out of the closet in your first letter. If you are a twice divorced parent with two kids, it’s enough to say, "I’ve been married before and have two beautiful children". Beware of asian ladies asking for large sums of money because of some emergency. By large, we mean more than $25. This is not common, but on rare occasions it does happen. 97% of these asian girls are looking for good, honest men to spend the rest of their lives with. If she is asking for large sums of money in her first few letters stop writing to her !!! Beware of something that doesn't sound quiet right. If it doesn't ring true, it probably isn't. A very few (1 to 3%) of these ladies will say anything for a free plane ticket to the USA, Canada, Germany, the UK or other countries that can offer them a better way of life.

DO... be honest in your personal ad and in any emails or online conversations. DON'T... give false impressions which could later lead to embarrassment or disappointment by either party. DO... if you choose to post a photo, make it a current one. DON'T... include your ex-spouse or otherwise significant other in your photo. DO... use common sense and rely on your intuition. DON'T... continue if something seems fishy, funny or harmful. If something feels wrong, it probably IS wrong! DO... be considerate. Respond to correspondences even if just to say no thank-you. DON'T... leave someone hanging, hoping or guessing. DO... spend sufficient time corresponding electronically and talking on the phone before agreeing to meet in person. DON'T... be rushed into meeting someone. IF she really wants to meet YOU, she will wait until you are ready. DO... exchange photos if you feel you are falling for someone and would like to meet in person. DON'T... be too disappointed if online (or phone) chemistry is not reality; remember there are more frogs in the pond!

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